Heart-based parenting approach

 In Coaching

No child enters this world with a written manual. We often receive advice and direction is given from a viewpoint that all kids should react basically the same. If you are a parent and you are reading this you will know it is very far from the truth.

No child or parent is the same and no child-parent relationship is the same.

And it should never be treated as such.

God made each one of us unique and He equips each parent to go about this parenting journey in victory while at the same time fulfilling a vital part of our calling.


How many times have you said something in the line of ‘If you pick up your toys, you can watch your story’, or ‘If you eat your food, you can have a sweet’…. This is merely behavior modification and the problem with this approach is that it appeals to the selfishness in children. Instead of doing something because it’s the right thing to do, children learn to ask the question, “What’s in it for me?” In the end, simple behavior modification develops people who are externally motivated.

But God looks at the heart. When he sent Samuel to anoint David as the next king of Israel he had to remind Samuel not to look at outward appearances but at the heart.  1 Samuel 16:7 ‘ The Lord does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.’

When you follow a heart-based approach to parenting you will go beyond   behavior modification. We start taking into account a biblical view of where true change takes place and we build on the internal motivation inside a child. We  start helping children to learn how to develop convictions, process offenses, listen to their conscience and value others. When parents focus on the heart instead of behavior, good things happen naturally, but more than that our parenting becomes intentional.

This said, intentional parenting needs a good plan. It is about identifying those heart qualities that children needs to develop, and where they need training. The personalized plan you will receive in the coaching journey, is to equip you practically in how to do just that.  The coaching program provides a road-map for parents that will inspire hope and vision and equip families with practical tools right away. Miracles happen in 8 weeks in the lives of parents and children. Once you get into the program you will not believe the changes that take place.

Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go (and in keeping with his individual gift or bent), and when he is old he will not depart from it. (AMPC)

Parents who find themselves in an endless cycle of discipline struggles find this program hopeful. Those who are looking for tools to add to their approach find this program refreshing. The program is insightful and broadens your perspectives, it is a game-changer! Children cooperate from a place of honor towards their parents and children becoming self-motivated to start doing what needs to be done around the house and beyond.

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